= eileen babe bee =

GRADUATION

2011-11-10T16:58:00.002+08:00

FINALLY!!!
I have officially graduated from Murdoch University!!!
I am officially an adult now.. the sad thing is that I have to look for a job..
then sit all day and get busy.. I'm so afraid that i'll get fat..
I am considering to be a teacher as a career.. applied for it.. but no avail..
if I cannot be a teacher, I will have to look around for a HR position..
I have went for a few interviews so far,
but either its not something I want or they don't want me..
I have not been talking with God for a while.. Hope he guides and lights my path..

I want to be well to do, or rather I don't want to be poor or tight in cash..
I don't need to be rich, cause I am afraid I will change for the worse..
If I earn 1 million, I'm worried that I am unable to give God my 10% ($100,000)..
One of my friend taught me to think the other way, that I still have $900,000..

Things between Marcus & I are going quite well..
HDB are not that easy to get.. we wanted to do it a couple of years back..
but we didn't, and it is so competitive now to even get a place..
We wanted just a 4-room flat to start of with then move to a bigger place like a Condo..
Then we thought, it is already so hard to get a unit now, we might as well get a 5-room or Executive Condo instead.. Well, it is not up to our decision I guess, it's time to trust in the Lord that he will provide shelter for both of us..

sometimes, I get very unhappy with some people's behavior.
some people are just so 'ACT'.. they say one thing but do the complete opposite..
or sometimes people can say how fair or not bias they are, but sometimes its a blind spot hat only third parties can see.. I hate the feeling of 'unfairness'..
I can't get over that feeling, and with my straightforward character,
I would just tell the person how I am really feeling..

I love instant noodles... but...

2011-11-10T16:49:00.001+08:00

Is It Healthy to eat Instant Noodles?

Posted on January 11, 2010 by Kishore

Instant Noodles is a popular cheap food item that keeps coming up to the market to attract the fast paced community of youngsters. Even though it is convenient to the user by saving a lot of their cooking time of but it is very unhealthy to consume because of its low nutritional value, rich in preservatives, deep fry causes cancer, etc.

What is instant noodles?

Instant noodles are dried or precooked noodles fused with oil, and often sold with a packet of flavoring. Dried noodles are usually eaten after being cooked or soaked in boiling water for 3 to 5 minutes, while precooked noodles can be reheated, or eaten straight from the packet

How are you aware of the good and bad effects of the instant noodles?

Instant noodles are often criticized as junk food since it is high in carbohydrates and low in fiber, vitamins and minerals. It has high level of saturated fat and trans fat. It is bad for the health due the high calorie and the flavoring (MSG) used inside.

What is MSG and its after effects?

MSG stands for Monosodium Glutamate is a chemical additive used as a flavor enhancer with no substitute. MSG causes neurological disorders such as Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s diseases as well as seizures, brain cell and damage, allergies, rashes, asthma attacks, headaches, and brain tumors.

MSG is not only found in noodles but is used around the globe in soups and broths, sauces, gravies, and flavoring and spice blends. MSG is also present in a variety of processed foods such as canned and frozen meats, fish, poultry, vegetables, and ready-to-eat food plates, dressings, ketchup, mayonnaise, soy sauce, sausages, snacks, some processed cheeses, soup powders for instant noodles, etc.

Is it safe to eat instant noodles on daily basis?

Absolutely not. Once you have consumed instant noodles, it will take 4 to 5 days to excrete the wax, which is coated on the noodles, from the body. But we can get rid off the wax if the noodles are cooked in the right way.

What is the right way of cooking instant noodles?

Boil the noodles in a pot with water.
Once the noodles is cooked, drain the water (Repeat the procedure 3 to 4 times)
Boil another pot of water till boiling and put the noodles into the hot boiling water and then shut the fire.
Only at this stage when the fire is off, and while the water is very hot, put the ingredient with the powder into the water, to make noodle soup.
However, if you need dry noodles, take out the noodles and add the ingredient with the powder and toss it to get dry noodles.

Even though the basic ingredient of the instant noodle is wheat flour, it is not advisable to eat on a regular basis due to its MSG content and wax coating but can have it for a change in the regular menu, if it is cooked in the right way. Remember, it is not healthy to eat noodles.

Wishing you all a good health!!!!!!!!

hi ?

2011-06-29T15:14:00.003+08:00

hubby is dozing and here i am blogging! hehe ;p
it's been a long time since i last blogged.
feels interesting and new.. keke

just celebrated john's birthday last week.
it was interesting. here is a photo of who attended! :)
it's been a while since i saw anna, and i think she still looks the same :)
she was the one who taught me how to peel a prawn with fork and spoon!

maki is accepted to some university in australia.
he has decided to go there. one person less in the group after this year :(
oh well, nevertheless, everyone decided to do something special.
all of us shall go on a trip somewhere together!

mummy's operation was a success and i am so glad that she is doing so much better. thank God for looking over her.
sometimes, i really feel that living in this world is so tough.
everyone is striving for things like money and success,
over family relations and spiritual needs.
when you have a bf, u spend less time with family.
when u have important friends, u spend less time with bf, family & god.

marcus's cousin wedding is coming up in Bali.
she invited me personally, but i am not sure if i am able to go.
but i do feel like going! hehe :)

marcus's parents came back from US not so long ago!
and aunty bought many many handbags.
she gave me & marie a Coach bag :) *likes*

Avène

2011-03-16T15:42:00.003+08:00

Eau-Thermale-Avene-Rich-Skin-Recovery-Cream-40ml (1)

Eau-Thermale-Avene-Rich-Skin-Recovery-Cream-40ml (2)

avene-eau-thermalethermal-spring-water-review

think I am going to start using this! Bought it since last year but did not manage to use it at all..
I actually thought of selling it off, but after reading these reviews, i decided to use them!
my pimples have been popping out recently.. the left cheek & forehead is so much better!
however, there are still some outbreaks on my right cheeks!
i am getting a little annoyed with this skin problem..
tired of always doing make-up to feel more confident..
have to go through all that hassle before going to sleep everyday..
man, it is really a chore.. hope things get better! :)

I Hate This Kind of People!

2011-03-16T13:41:00.001+08:00

21 Feb'11
SGYxxxxJ Grey BMW
Approximately 9.45
Scratch on right side; no dent

Situation:
- Doing 3 point turn (u-turn)
- BMW comes
- could not pass through the first time, had to reverse again. BMW inches forward knowing that I couldn't pass.
- BMW was very close
- thinking I could pass, I inched forward & drove.
- BMW horns like crazy (more than 5 times)
- I stopped & look back. Owners get down, I got down too.
- owner claims that I scratched his car, but I did not feel anything.
- after checking on both cars, there was a scratch.
- I apologized a few times. I said that his car was near. BMW got very defensive & said he was stationary.
- BMW wants to see my IC, asks me how. I asked back what do u suggests. He did not suggest anything, so I suggested to let it go. He was talking loudly & testing me. He said he wanted to claim for insurance. (who will claim for such small stuff) He said he wanted to talk to my father. Thinking that my father will protect me, I called.

- when daddy came down, I went to park the car, & they started talking. I only heard part of the conversation. "that I should not say let it go, plus he know the car is one of the residents here. Always remembered as a man driving, not a little girl. Thought going to be a 'hit & run'. Saying that should not tel him that my daddy is aggressive (with all the fighting actions)" Daddy asks how much to pay for the damages. BMW says it's okay, take it as meeting a new friend. Shakes daddy's hands, & walk away.

Comments:
- he inched forward knowing that I couldn't pass through.
- he said he wanted to claim insurance. (taking me as a fool)
- talked loudly to a lady like me. (a little gangster like)
- did not suggest a thing, so I suggested. (straight forward) If u wanted $, I could have easily given it to you.
- called me a little girl (I'm more legal than u think I am)
- contradicting saying you know the car, them say think hit & run. If I wanted to run, I would have.
- made peace with daddy, & thought I was transparent.

MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!

2011-01-07T12:40:00.007+08:00

MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!

It has been a long time since i blogged..
I guess it is not a habit anymore..
Anyway, Christmas was nice, receive a lot of presents!
It was pretty rushy though, church had a different service timing..
Service was good, Marcus & I were lucky to get ourselves a seat upstairs..
Church was so full!!! this Christmas I feel recharged again..
I want to walk with God, love him more, and learn to be a prayer warrior..
I guess, jia you to myself! I am glad to have Marcus..
God is love, because of him, I am able to love my family & Marcus..
Love is a wonderful feeling, by knowing Jesus, i feel that i am able to love better..
Thank you Lord..
After all the wonderful service, we met Marie's boyfriend!
He seems like a nice guy and seems very proper.. Good..
Marcus & I had to run to both of our relatives sides..
Thank God both our families and grandparents stay nearby..

We planned a countdown, wanted to have a bbq..
Either at andre's place, or my place or marcus's place..
Ee just intended to countdown, but all of us ended up staying over!
Which i thought everyone was so steady and awesome!
John & Andre ended up sleeping, such a turn off..
Oh well, at least we had quite a great time counting down..
Something interesting, everyone had to take a shot every 2 hours!
Even Andre took it, such a surprise! it was great..
Can't wait to see all their girlfriends though, so that i could have some more company.. haha!

Something happened on Wednesday.. I miss SP, SS is just messy & crazy..
My daddy's car got wheel-camped, we are residents here, so ridiculous..
We called the Guard House to ask the guards to come down to speak to us.
Not only was the reception bad, the guard could not understand a single thing we were saying.
This is atrocious, when I asked him who wheel-clamped a car today,
he giggled and said, "everyone wheel-clamp cars here.'
Seriously, what kind of attitude is this? It was sarcastic and arrogant.
We were furious. We then walked to the Guardhouse with that heavy rain.
Surprisingly, there were many people (or rather, men) at the Guardhouse.
Not bothering about them, we told the guard to release or un-clamp the car.
A man then said, "No." They said that we had to pay $100 for the un-clamping.
My dad then demanded him of an explanation.
We did not have the transponder because the Management lost our application form.
We had to re-apply again. They did not give us a Temporary Pass on their own accord.
We had to ask for it. But we can only park on the visitor lots. Gosh.
All the people who were standing at the Guardhouse, were the Management.
There were some people who were loud and rough with their words.
They said, "call police ah, call lah! want to video, video lah!"
Seriously, I have not seen a man so childish.
It seems as though I was in Sec Sch where kids were asking to fight.
Of course, we were not nice with our tone & volume.
Things became very agitated and bad. They and Dad nearly got into a fight.
I then called the Police. They then came when the problem was almost settled.
The Chairman spoke and said that he will un-clamp the car and check with the Management.
They took down all our particulars. And said something that I found very reasonable.
'How could you clamp a Resident's car? Couldn't you have checked first?'
Ya, why the hurry to clamp the car? Just to earn that $100?
It would harm or take much time to check that car-plate number out, then call the resident right?
We were heated up because of that guard that was so rude.
They were heated up because of the heavy rain and system that couldn't work.
Causing so much jam and unhappiness of the residents.
Oh well, it was just a bad day for all of these to happen.
If they wanted to try a new system, they should inform the Residents first beforehand.
I mean, how hard is it to put up a Notice at the lifts or drop it in letter box?

There is really a problem with the Management.
Visitor carparks are not done well, big puddles are always there..
Maybe that is the cause of mosquitoes, my bro, sis & I had so many mosquitoes bites!
Gates are not functioning well.. Took more than a month to fix the side gates..
There are leaks in our home, water pipes are running so loudly..
All the gates are getting rusty, no re-painting was done..
The swimming pool jacuzzi is not working well all of the time, sometime, it even smells.
The toilet looks nice, but not all the shower rooms are working. In fact, only one is working.
The jacuzzi in the jacuzzi was on fire once, didn't they maintain it?
Management, management, but who is exactly doing something about it..?
Who is the one who can actually make decision around here?
If only I could have SS house in SP compound. It would be awesome.

UPDATES

2010-09-02T12:23:00.012+08:00

have not been blogging for quite some time..

anniversary was sweet.. honey bought me roses, card and hp pouch..
i only bought him a little bag that didnt cost much..
nevertheless, we had a great day..
honey brought me to somewhere that was very beautiful.. keppel bay @ marina..
we ate at preve.. it was dark, couldnt see clearly of the food..
but we sure could see the beautiful scenery..
for the first time, we kind of watched the sunset.. *sweets*
have not watched sunrise yet though..................

gave wei wei (sis) 2 ear piece for her birthday, same as yang yang (bro)..
she liked it =) cause hers spoilt quite some time back..
celebrated wei's birthday at ah ma house..
here is the photo which we took and i like it a lot..
celebrated yang's birthday at orchard hotel buffet.. kind of good huh? haha ;p

for the first time, wei wei had her guitar concert..
she was very nervous until she got a stomach ache.. haha ;p so cute..
feeling proud of her =) she only performed 2 songs though..
spend the rest of the time listening to other schools and other people..
nevertheless, these are some of the photos we took during breaktime..

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Singapore !!!
went to this NTUC thing where people will sit on ground mats..
and celebrate national day together..
kind of meaningful, but it was very warm during the evenings..
things got so much better during the night..
the goodie bags are more special than the real ones in padang..

my birthday is coming up.. these are all the people invited..
however, not all of them got back to me yet.. so far only got about 30 people =)
hope to confirm soon, so that i can get the right amount of food..
man, food can be expensive too.. about half a K ?
GOSH, I am still thinking of what to WEAR ...!

um, birthday wishes?
Perfume, Ang Bao, & Big Presents !!!
I still need decor and birthday cake ...

anniversary coming up

2010-08-11T14:41:00.002+08:00

anniversary coming up... and i am still wondering what to get for him..
oh no.. big trouble !!!
things have not gone well the past few days..
however, things are better now..
it is always good to talk things out and let the party be aware of what is happening..

bye kc

2010-08-02T12:45:00.004+08:00

nice picture! kc is going to camp today!
hope everything will go well..
it is amazing that he is bringing a blackberry into camp..
i wouldnt if it were me.. haha ;p

interesting picture! i look tall, hubby looks short..
but he is still taller! why?!?

have a nice feeling towards this photo.. i like =)

this place is cheap & good @ city square mall!
marcus's mom & dad brought us there..
i wanted some yogurt ice cream (strong craving) after that, couldnt find..
well, i saw mr bean's ice cream, so i decided to have it instead..
while marcus was queuing, he mentioned that maybe no more already..
true enough, the person in front bought the last cone!
had to wait for another 10 mins for the next cone..
oh my! so sian...........

sweet photos

2010-07-29T11:17:00.003+08:00

sweet photos :) can see oreo's eyes.. haha ;p

i feel so lazy to study now!!!
exam is next friday & next sat.. at 7pm...
oh my, 7pm leh... 10pm then will end...
soooo longggggg.......

spent sat, sun, mon, tues with mey dear...
unfortunately, he was sick.. having a bad fever, headache & throat infection..
we watch despicable me..
haha.. its kinda cute, but we didnt watch 3D..
there was this lady that was sitting beside us, she laughed very loudly in a weird way..

i'm cracking my brains to think of a door gift for guests whose going to attend my bday party..
door gift, door gift, door gift !!!
i am so glad i manage to book Serenity Park's function room..
its nice :) well, at least i think it is big enough..

i think i should put everything aside for now..
should be using my brains for study!!! not this for now..
alrighty then, jia you jia you to myself !!! :D

test

2010-07-10T15:25:00.004+08:00

i think things have been going ok.. just took a browse on Marcus's blog..
he took some interesting test in year 2007..
amazingly, the website is still there.. so i am going to take mine too..

You Live Your Life Silently

You seem to be straight forward, but you keep a lot inside.

You're laid back and chill, but sometimes you care too much about what others think.

You prefer a variety of friends and tend to change friends quickly.

You tend to dream big, but you worry that your dreams aren't attainable.

How Do You Live Your Life?

You Communicate Like a Woman

You empathize, talk things out, and express your emotions freely.

You're a good listener, and you're non-judgmental with your advice.

Communication is how you connect with people.

You're always up for a long talk, no matter how difficult the subject matter is.

Do You Communicate Like a Man or a Woman?

Your Ideal Relationship is Marriage

You've dated enough to know what you want.

And that's marriage - with the right person.

You're serious about settling down some time soon.

Even if you haven't met the person you want to get hitched to!

What's Your Ideal Relationship?

You're a Romantic Kisser

For you, kissing is all about feeling the romance.

You love to kiss under the stars or by the sea.

For you, the perfect kiss involves the perfect mood.

It's pretty common for kisses to sweep you off your feet.

What Kind of Kisser Are You?

Blogthings: A Fine Line Between Insight and Stupidity

problems in love

2010-07-03T11:10:00.001+08:00

Maybe i should just learn or practice these:

Numerous reasons could be cited which lead to misunderstanding between individual in a relationship. It could be monetary, emotional or even physical. One could look at the misunderstandings from two perspectives- male and female.

Male perspective

Several reasons could be attributed by the man in the relationship, some of them could be:

Adequate communication

It is considered that women's behavior is more emotional than men's. Although it would be fair to say that even the most emotional women are sometimes simply not quite self-confident. Men hardly use the female language of emotions and for them learning a Latin or Greek would be easier to learn as compared to the former. This gap in communication provokes most of acute problems and conflicts.

Lack of understanding

To bridge the communication gap that sets in individuals, it is important for the man to gain some understanding of emotions. Maybe women at times use an emotional approach to communicate which is misunderstood by men as encroachment. So if a man wants to become proficient in emotional aspect, it is important to learn to understand your feelings.

Blaming each other

Many a times, men think that women are encroaching too much by grazing some emotional aspect. Though the woman might be trying to make them comfortable, it could be misinterpreted! This could result in the two individuals blaming each other.

Being compassionate

Expressing compassion resolves a great deal of miscommunication. At time it becomes imperative for men to shed their rationalistic thinking and get into the shoes of a woman! That mean. They need to be more patient and lend an ear to their partner's maladies irrespective how trivial it may be.

Female perspective

A man is not as bad as you think!

The emotional communication of men differs from women as a result women need to realize that they might not get the same degree of intimacy from men when it comes to talking.

Let him boast

Women should take men boating about their success at workplace or other things in their stride. Women generally perceive boasting as a sign of egoistic male nature while in reality it might not be the case! That is why you should take this character trait as a matter of course.

Give him his space

Men always need more space, than women do. Women might find this to be dictatorial in nature. Women should remember that when a man interferes into your private space he is bound by his habit of exercising a certain degree of authority.

Money related issues

Money related issues crop up when there exist some form of imbalance between the two individuals. This could also be augmented by ego and lack of communication. Issues which go unnoticed acquire gargantuan stature once marriage happens. Some of the situations could be:

Difference in priorities

One's choice of a house could be negated with another's choice of a holiday

Possessiveness towards income

If the individuals become conscious of who is earning and how much then that could lead to ripples in the relationship. Prudence is good but understanding is more

Got this from: http://love.ygoy.com/love-basics/problems-in-love.php

senior ez link card

2010-07-03T10:50:00.002+08:00

look at this lamp post!
so interesting, & very considerate..
i think this is a brilliant idea as elderly are usually slower..
i have seen cars that are really hard-hearted..
they horn the elderly when it just turn red man..

i have change the brand of my powder foundation..
it seems not bad so far, only used it once..
this brand may not be famous, but it does seem ok..
the sales lady said that BB cream went out of stock..
not bad huh..

went to bed this unhappy, woke up not feeling any better..
agreed to call when we are awake, in the end the decision was to go back to sleep..
if this is the case, then wake up then call me can already, i call for what..
i know it has been very tiring, but... (i understand, but not fully)
things have not been very smooth sailing..
feeling very irritated & tired when things are not well..
very tired of waiting.. canceling work to accommodate..
the same might not be done to me..
wait everyday for the night chat, wednesday for nights out,
weekend of dates, 2 years for freedom, 5 years to settle down..
tired, drained.. dont know what to do, cause I Love You..

movie time!

2010-06-29T14:58:00.002+08:00

my dear hubby bought only 5 tickets when there is 6 people watching..
so cute! i myself was not alert to know it as well.. haha
i'm quite impressed, the usual him that dont break rules,
actually cut the queue and bought 1 more ticket..
we were so lucky to have got one more of the same row..

when we got into the cinema, he had some difficulty in asking the people to move down..
as it was 7 seats away..
the people are nice, the moved for him.. hubby is so 'heng'..

MARMADUKE !!!

honey pie! =)
its been a while since we took photos..
it seems like the same pose everytime though.. haha
i admire those couples who take photo every week when they meet up..
but it also seems like its the eating that is the part that most couple
(that has been together for many years) look forward to..

random/ funny

2010-06-29T14:49:00.003+08:00

look at the guy in the middle of the picture!
he is wearing such tight pants..
very disgusting, marcus & i couldnt take it..
in addition, i wonder if he was wearing men's shoe or ladies' heels..
it is kinda high and pointed.. similar to ladies' heels..
this is too sexy for me, i cant stand it.. haha!

so cute right! a baby shoe beside the road on this mini pillar..
wonder which mom left it there before crossing the road,
and forgot to take it back..

this is PLC, marcus's camp from outside..
interesting huh.. i kinda like picking him up at times..
feels kind of sweet and cant wait to see him walking out..
cant stand it when i want to get there fast though, cause it is really not near!

honey is back!

2010-06-04T11:11:00.005+08:00

my honey is back.. everything seems so fine again.. *happy*
really glad we made it thru the trip..
it was really tough.. as it is not really about the not meeting part, but rather the communication part..
picked honey at airport at 4am.. very early! hahas.. but, it was worth it..
waited for 22days just for this time/ day to come! feels extremely excited..
he expected me to wear something nicer thou, when i wore only shirt, skirt and slippers.. oops!

he bought for me a school bag, hand bag, a bouquet of sweets, 2 dress, 1 top and handphone pouch =)
so sweet !!! but never buy anything for me to eat.. hahas!

went to coffee club for dinner.. it was nice, pretty romantic..
have not had such a time for a long while.. enjoyed ourselves =)
here are some pictures!

hurt

2010-05-29T00:39:00.001+08:00

you told me you would never step into one..
& it is not all about you being safe..
you broke your word, and chose to hurt me..

*still hoping for a reply since 8.38pm..

POA

2010-05-20T11:29:00.004+08:00

i manage to balance my Principles of Accounting test yesterday..
pretty happy, because i couldn't balance a single cash flow in class..
so.. should be able to pass.. hahas =)
yappie!

miss my hubby!
i think oreo misses marcus too..
he keeps going to his bag in my room..
maybe that is why he is not eating well..
love sick with marcus.. hahas!

surprise..

2010-05-19T23:28:00.002+08:00

hubby gave me a surprise call today.. miss his special voice..
when he is in taiwan, he never fails to give me a sms or chat on msn or gimme a call..
very sweet right? hahas.. i am glad and happy he does that..
he left sg on the 7 May.. it seems so long already..
11 more days to go till he comes back..
WHOA... LONG, very LONG...

oreo baby vomited today.. hope he is feeling better..
he vomited all watery stuffs.. no solid food, guess he was having gastric or something..
he has not been eating well recently..
very picky with his food..

i have graduated from RP !

2010-05-13T11:47:00.004+08:00

i have graduated from RP !
after 3 years of studying there, actually, i think it is pretty beneficial..
it is true that we find our way to the problem..
while studying there, i do not feel that it is beneficial..
quite sick of it actually, but now, reflecting back, it is pretty good..
my GPA increased a little due to my hard work.. previously was (2.78)
i am quite happy about it..
GPA: 2.82 / 4.00
anyway, here are some pics !

hubby has gone Taiwan for training due to NS.. going for 24 days..
man, it sure is a long time.. i miss him already.. its only been 6 days..
nevertheless, he is very sweet! he will try to use the net to chat with me every day or
call me on the phone.. but we cant chat long as it will be pretty expensive..
its gonna be 17 more days! faster let it pass!

studying now at SMa.. many people has not heard about it,
but it is linked with Murdoch University..
never mind, everyone study to strive for that paper of qualification..
so, as long as it is not expensive, it is acceptable, i guess..

sweet week

2010-04-11T23:37:00.003+08:00

had a really beautiful Friday with my hubby..
had a feeling as though as if we were dating again..
marcus hubby is very sweet to fetch me from school on Sat and Sun..
not only does he understands i got school, he still encourages me..
having someone to support me and dote me so much encourages me and pushes me on..
last wed, after my bridging test, we met up because he got nights out..
guess what, he got me a cute bear.. i hugged it all the way home..
it is all these little things that people do to make the other party feel loved..
and yes, i feel loved and dote by marcus :) sweet week

little updates

2010-03-23T10:19:00.003+08:00

little updates that happened last month!

spent $300 on Oreo during on weekend.
Food, Vet and Grooming!

went to jalan kayu farm !!! :D

jia you

2010-03-14T11:51:00.003+08:00

things are beginning to feel different..
cant figure out what.. perhaps what people say is true..
NS does change a person and drifts people apart..
weekends are beginning to seem really different..
there does not seem to be much time for 'a world for only 2 persons'..
just make it feel like a 'date' than a 'family outing' all the time..
miss those kind of feeling..
really hope i can be back independent than relying and getting hurt or upset..
jia you to myself!

a post that should be posted long ago..

2010-03-14T11:46:00.002+08:00

considered u as a family already..
never knew i was still an outsider..
feels like i am taking things more serious than you..
talk is crap, actions are what people really look at..
i hate self-invites or sayings like "got me means got you too" kind of reasons..
i think it is nonsense..
cause i have only seen more of 'them' last year..
Love is in the air, but its not only thing people need.

*Note: this is a post long ago that has not been posted..

no more class !

2010-02-12T11:07:00.002+08:00

no more class for Diploma !!! :D

start of work now..
unsure part time or full time though..

still pending on certain decisions..

somehow, yesterday was just weird..
when some things or matters get in between, it just feels so different..
it could take away all the excitement and joy of meeting..

oh well, cant waiting for Lunar New Year to come! :)
meeting up with cousies with new clothes is just sweet!
every year we see each other, we're one year older! Ah!
still looking forward, even though will get less ang paos this year..
how i wish granddad was still here.............................

2010-02-01T15:10:00.000+08:00

i always thought you would understand.. but it seems like i am wrong sometimes..

trust.. something that i yearn and is still looking for..

sweet !

2010-02-01T14:37:00.004+08:00

i had a very sweet weekend with marcus..

marcus have not played any game in a long time..
he started playing his pet society on facebook again..
super duper funny..
he loves the fishing in that game..
so amazing and funny..

had candle light dinner at his place yesterday..
though it was just normal chinese cooked food, it was nice..
with 2 frangant scent, heart-shaped candles in the centre..
it was simply beautiful..
had a nice chat, without any disturbance..
it is rare to just catch each others' full attention..

i wanted to take many photos this weekend, but my hp is down..
marcus did not have a camera with him either..
wanted to just take the dinner's photos and take a video of oreo sleeping..
he was so cute! he was snoring and dreaming! super funny !

love love oreo

2010-01-15T11:51:00.004+08:00

baby oreo has grown bigger!
brought him for full grooming last week..
wanted to bring to the usual yishun place..
however, their price increased to $55 (usual$45)..
it is way to expensive..

hence, marcus & i decided to bring him to pasir ris farmway there..
there are so many pet shops there!
many many cute puppies!
their grooming service is only ranging from $30 to $40..
i am not sure if they do it well..
but they do seem ok..

well, nevertheless, oreo went there to try!
hahas.. i must say, his hair or fur cut is quite nice!
just that i am a little unhappy with his tail..
its still long.. oh well.. oreo is still cute!

oreo has got a facebook account too!
do add! love love oreo :D

HAPPY NEW YEAR

2010-01-04T12:55:00.002+08:00

HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!

year 2009 has passed and year 2010 has began!
it sure is fast.. that a year just slipped pass so fast..

have not been blogging for some time now..
first of all, Christmas had been pretty fun..
went to Ah Po Mama house on my side first..
then went to Ma Ma house on marcus's side..
then came back to ah po mam house for some games..

went to Pasir Ris farmway yesterday!!!
there were so many cute puppies..
there was even a place for dogs to play around & make some friends..
super duper cute! so fun!
there is one that was pretty cute and pretty cheap..
only $680 (includes micro-chipping & all vaccinations)

i wanted to get one.. shih tzu (female)
thinking that it could be so much fun have 2 dogs and that Oreo could have some company as well as generating some income from their puppies..
oh well, turn out that marcus was not very fond of the idea..
perhaps it really is too much work..

BLUR me !!!
i though school reopens tomorrow..
nevertheless, ti reopens today!
i am currently at home not sure what to do..
trying to study but just cant concentrate well..
the worse thing is that i have to go back to school later to do my UT (test)
man, i have not studied anything yet...
* getting worried *

marcus hubby is sick.. running fever..
doctors gave him 3 day MC..
he felt so bad last night that he woke up @ 3am just to go to visit the doctor..
his temperature was more than 38 degrees..
he has taken a jab and i guess the fever has subsided..
however, he is still feeling very tired and getting more rest..
hope he gets well soon! Loves!

bintan !!!

2009-11-30T14:51:00.002+08:00

i'm back from bintan holiday !!!
the water sport there is really tiring, fun and scary !!!
it is definitely a once in a lifetime experience..
here are some Early-bird pictures!!!
the rest will be up soon :)

shirley darling!

2009-11-26T15:23:00.003+08:00

tuesday night's photos!

first time sitting ru xin's car with her driving!
not bad.. so fast can drive go newton le! xD
congrats for your passing!

it has been so long since i saw my darling SHIRLEY!
she came back!!! XD
however, sadly, she is going to go back this weekend..
she asked me out tomorrow night..
but i could not make it because i am going to bintan tomorrow..
man, really hope the trip will be good..

not weird & problems free..

depressed

2009-11-26T10:23:00.002+08:00

feeling depressed now..
feelings seems to be dying off.. not sure if it is a good thing..
it is getting numb to the ups and downs.. really numb..
starting to feel like i can't stand or take it anymore..
feel like bursting or breaking down..
but don't know where or who to confide in..
friends are everywhere, but someone to confide in is hard..
get want to get drunk and sleep it off..

cute !

2009-11-24T20:27:00.003+08:00

i dressed oreo up more girly!
he was very cute.. made me smile whenever i looked at him..
feeding him his medicine is really a tough thing to do..
dont even mention about digging his ears yet..
he simply just HATE people digging his ears..
he will start biting and be very fierce..
hence, sometimes, i had no choice but to hit him because he couldn't behave..

finally! all UT is over! the next UT is actually after the Dec holidays!
feels super duper great!
cant believe i am doing problem 8 now..
just 7 to 8 more problems to go.. then a long holiday will come...
next, would be a Graduation & a Cert !!!
i would feel that it is good.. as it is when all the 3 years of work has been paid off..

however, that will be the part when it is the time to pursue further studies is not nice..
it would be about another 2 years of hard work till another Cert..
from there, hunting of jobs will come into play..
when there is a job, tiredness will start draining in..
well, guess that's life..
hope the journey will not be as boring as it sounds here..

the emotional part of my day did not go well at all today..
feeling very sad and irritated..
sometimes, after being together for so long, i can actually be unsure if we do know and understand each other very well..
things does not seem to have gone well today..
it was definitely not the same as the usual days..
and the worst thing is, i think none of us know what is wrong..

updates :)

2009-11-17T17:52:00.003+08:00

baby oreo no longer looks like that or is this size..
he is a big boy now even though he is only 5 months old..
still a naughty dog, drinks his urine & eats his shit..
anyway, his tooth broked/ dropped yesterday!
i am totally unsure of the reason, but he was actually biting some bone of his..
he must have bit it too hard or something..
the weird thing is, he is still happy and running around and is still biting..
oh well, guess it does not hurt for him..

brought oreo to see doctor last sunday.. his ears got infection again!
man, it is really troublesome.. oreo does not like people to use cotton buds to dig his ears...
but when he got to the vet, he stayed still and did not struggle even for a bit!
so bias.. only like pretty girls or like the air con..
hubby was saying that we should on the air con when we want to dig his ears.. hahas!

my second batch of cookies are out!!!
5 judges says that it was good !!!
they even asked me to make more for christmas..
or even as a gift for friends.. cool huh...
although many people like this batch of cookies, and that include me..
hubby still likes the previous batch.. whereas, it was softer..
*old man likes soft stuff.. HAHAS

hubby managed to take a full day of MA on friday..
meaning to say that he was out on thursday..
hence, i did not go to school on the friday.. hahas.. SHIOK!
anyway, we went to the SGH hospital for his check..
then went to vivocity to get my LG hp done..
the hp speakers are not working well, keep distorting, very irritating to the other party..
which is usually, my hubby.. hahas.. "sorry!" xD

anyway, we saw something very cute and interesting there @ vivocity!
we saw a mini - oreo.. it looks exactly like the one we have..
however, it is so much smaller in size.. which was the 1st time we had our oreo..
SUPER cute! looks SUPER alike! and........... it was SUPER expensive!!!
it was selling for SG$1388.. man, we were so shock by the price..
nevertheless, we want to ask for its gender..
if it was a female, we may consider to have many more baby oreos.. hahas..
sadly, it was a male.. which makes it more like our oreo.. oh well..
at least we got a great deal for our furry child, OREO :)

nice

2009-11-08T21:38:00.004+08:00

went to some place nice the other day with the guys.. waited for 1 hour just to eat there.. (maki queued up) thanks! it has been a long time since we met up with isaac.. i must say that the dinner was good and their portion was big..

i baked cookie yesterday! 5 of my judges says it was good! yay! a great achievement.. i have not baked for quite some time actually.. to be exact, it was about 2 years.. glad i still have some skill :)

however, the first try was only "ok" cause i do not have the recipe..
which was last week..
hence, i did it all out of memory... which was not very accurate..
it turned out, just "ok"..
cutely, hubby liked it.. he preferred the previous on to this time round..
although many others prefer this batch of cookies..
we baked a really big one! here's the picture..

marie graduation

2009-11-02T17:57:00.004+08:00

it was a nice afternoon that was very warm..
luckily it did not rain that day..
it was very sweet of Marie Jie to ask me to go for the outdoor photoshoot as well :)
i must say, that it is fun to have a photo shoot..
however, it takes a lot of time and patience and of course,
Good Weather..
all of us there has been perspiring non stop..
here are some of the photos!
there more on facebook...

"10 Promises to My Dog"

2009-11-02T17:52:00.001+08:00

1. My life is likely to last 10-15 years. Regular separation from you will be painful and can even cause depression. Think before you buy me.

2. Give me time to understand what you want from me don’t be impatient, short-tempered or irritable.

3. Place your trust in me and I will always trust you back, respect is earned not given as some sort of inalienable right.

4. Don’t be angry with me for long, and don’t lock me up as punishment. I am not capable of understanding why I am being locked up. I only know I have been rejected. You have your work, entertainment and friends. I only have you.

5. Talk to me sometimes. Even if I don’t understand your words, I do understand your tone. “You only have to look at my tail” to know that.

6. Be aware that however you treat me, I will never forget, if that treatment is unjust or bad, it may spoil the special bond between us.

7. Please do not hit me. I cannot hit back, but I can bite and scratch and I don’t ever want to feel the need to do that.

8. Before you tell me off me for being uncooperative, obstinate, or lazy, ask yourself if something might be wrong with me. Perhaps I’m not getting the right food or I’ve been out in the sun too long, maybe my heart is getting old and weak, or maybe I’m just dog-tired.

9. Take care of me when I get old. You too will grow old and will also want care, love, and affection.

10. Go with me on difficult journeys. Never say, “I can’t bear to watch” or “Let it happen in my absence”. Everything is easier for me if you are there. Remember, Irrespective of what you do I will always love you.

i think this show is pretty touching.. cried pretty badly in the end..
sobs sobs.. the puppy super duper cute...... xD

happy birthday dear

2009-10-19T14:48:00.004+08:00

saw a very weird couple outside the canteen today..
it was this medium size guy with a plump lady..
the guy was pushing the lady in between pillars using his body..
super duper funny.. everyone was laughing..

Happy Birthday dear...
celebrated his birthday on Friday & Saturday..
went to have steamboat with his family @ bugis..
had the cake on Saturday morning..
cut the cake without marcus dad though.. he went for some course..
however, jie and benny was there :)
here are some of the photos!

marcus really like the present we got for him..
it is a PSP !!!
he wanted it since he got into camp..
it was something that everyone had in camp, but he didnt..
but now, he feels good with it! he keeps playing with it the whole day during the weekends..
configuring it and putting movies, etc..
here are the contributors for the PSP present.. thank you!!!

went out with some of the CHC ushers on thursday..
we went to Ion to eat.. wow, their food court is so not like food court..
there was no food less than $5.. expensive man..
oh ya, i have never really went to walk around the whole build before,
but ck, bx & josh brought me to walk around..
i was so amazed to see all those expensive shops around there..
super expensive.. and guess what? we were all dressed pretty sloppy..
very weird feeling when we want to go into some shops to take a look.. hahas..

mummy fainted!

2009-10-12T09:26:00.004+08:00

my mummy fainted yesterday.. got my grandma and uncle, aunties so worried.. went to riverlife yesterday.. while on my way to dhoby ghaut, i received a phone call from my grandma saying that my mummy fainted just now..

went to celebrate Andre's birthday @ cathay.. the food was good there.. we bought a cake for the birthday boy.. took a few photos & left to see my mummy..

reached mummy's place pretty early.. she looked so weak.. bought bird nest for her.. hope she will drink all of it and get well soon!

finally! i am left with 3 more DA or NDA points to be completed..
yay! i am so happy.. :)

today's lesson

2009-10-08T18:05:00.002+08:00

first week of school is going to pass soon..
things have been good so far..
facilitators have been pretty good..

today's facilitator is a little weird..
she is a very gentle lady.. she speaks gently and softly..
not soft until cannot hear, it is just right..
she did not make the lesson very interesting..
hence, it feels like putting you to sleep or something..

my puppy oreo is growing very fast..
and he is getting naughtier and naughtier..
anyone knows how to train a dog well other than using treats?

missing

2009-10-05T21:50:00.007+08:00

went to riverlife church last Sunday..
thinking it would be a normal service, but it wasnt..
there was a familiar face that i saw there..
it was Pastor Mike Connell..
it made me feel motivated to grow in my journey with God again..
he made things very lively there.. all the jumping, clapping, and louder music made me feel like CHC..

after church on sunday, we went to beach road to get some stuffs,
then headed to dhoby ghaut to catch a movie..
the movie was surrogates.. i must say that it was a pretty interesting movie..
however, the ending to it all was just abit weird..

GUESS WHAT?
i just saw my puppy eating his own shit!
oh man, i did not know he was so hungry..
we heard from people that we should not feed them so often..
so marcus & i decided to cut down on his meals,
from 3 meals a day to 2 meals a day, never did i knew he was so hungry..
immediately, i fed him with more food..
this made me reflect on him farting & having weird sounds at his tummy area..
perhaps this is the reason why, but then again,
we only started cutting down his diet yesterday..

oh well, hope things would be fine soon!

first day of school was ok..
perhaps because i knew 1-third of the people in my class..
day 1, 2 & 3 are in the same class.. E26J
whereas, day 4 is in a different class..
with all the year 2 and only 2 other year 3s..
hope it would be fine..
nites!

October now

2009-10-03T11:53:00.005+08:00

it is a new start of October..
which also means that i am going to start school soon..
my 5 weeks holiday has ended this way..

during these holidays i have been helping out in the office doing part time..
key in some data & answer some telephone calls when needed..
meantime, i also have a new job now.. which is tuition!
teaching some K2 student.. 1.5 hours, one a week..
the pay is not high though, as they are K2 students..

my birthday just passed, not too long ago, here are some pictures..
had many new stuffs.. thanks for all the presents & wishes everyone! :)

Stop Squeezing Your Pimples - 7 Safe Ways to Get Rid of Pimples

2009-08-27T13:58:00.000+08:00

Stop Squeezing Your Pimples - 7 Safe Ways to Get Rid of Pimples

It's everyone's worst nightmare. Waking up the day before a special event to discover a big, red pimple baring itself for all to see right on your face!

Here's how to get rid of it quickly and safely:

1. Don't ever pinch, squeeze or pick at a pimple. This only causes it to become more red and inflamed, and will spread the bacteria and oils that caused it in the first place, to other parts of your face! It can also lead to scars.

2. Every 30 minutes, apply an ice pack to the pimple and hold it there for about 2 minutes. This will decrease the swelling and redness and help shrink the inflammation and pain that sometimes
comes along with it.

3. They don't call it concealer for nothing! Covering the pimple with a light dose of flesh-tinted concealer can help mask it when you're in a hurry. It also helps cover up that oily shine.

4. Cleanse your skin 2-3 times a day with mild, unscented soap or a specialized acne cleanser that has no harsh chemicals (such as lye). Scrub skin gently with an exfoliating pad or washcloth, but don't rub too hard, otherwise you'll sap your skin of its own natural oils, which help to repel buildup naturally.

5. Apply a cream or ointment containing benzyl peroxide or salicylic acid (many over-the-counter acne medicines contain these ingredients) to the blemish or around the entire facial area. Note that these ingredients both have a tendency to dry out skin if used too much and are not recommended if you have sensitive skin.

6. Wear oil-free makeup whenever possible. These types have less of a tendency to cause the pore buildup that results in blemishes. Remove your makeup nightly and cleanse with an acne-fighting medicine to remove dirt, oil and makeup from deep within the skin.

7. If you're in need of a quick fix, a dab of toothpaste on the affected area right before bed can help soothe irritation and reduce redness. Pressing and holding a wet tea bag or a cotton ball with a dab of lemon juice against the blemish for five minutes can also reduce swelling and redness.

If you follow these tips, chances are you'll notice a significant
difference rather quickly - often within a day or two. If pimples become a recurring problem or worsen, your doctor or dermatologist can suggest a daily skin cleansing routine that will suit your skin type. Other long-term remedies, such as facial masks, diet adjustments and increasing the amount of water you drink can also help combat outbreaks.

How to pop a pimple

If you must pop, pop safely

Disinfect a needle with rubbing alcohol. A basic sharp sewing needle is a good choice.
Gently prick the pimple’s surface.
Take two tissues and wrap your index fingers with them.
Squeeze from the sides, confidently but gently, using a down-and-in motion. Don’t force it. If the pimple is ready, it’ll pop. If it doesn’t, leave it be. Be sure to stop if clear fluid or blood starts to come out.
Continuing to work at a lesion that is not ready to be popped can lead to scarring. Walk away from the mirror!

YES !

2009-08-17T11:11:00.003+08:00

have not been blogging for a long time.. lots of things happen.. some of the major events would be

ru xin's wedding..
it was a beautiful wedding with very nice photos and videos!

new puppy! OREO
he is black and white.. that explains his name..
he is a male.. very guai yet notty..

my 6th year anniversary!
did fondue ourselves!

long time

2009-07-22T13:10:00.003+08:00

its been a long time since i blogged..
anyway, here goes..
Ru Xin is married! it is really a beautiful wedding..
with all the posters.. cards and even videos of the wedding day itself..

anyway, i am feeling very unwell..
went to this clinic early in the morning yesterday..
i tell you, the medicine sucks..
it does not even work at all..
besides, the doctor's attitude was very bad..
when my daddy asked him questions, he answered it to the wall..
when he look at me or trying to figure out what was wrong with me,
he merely just look at my throat, take my temperature, hear abit of my breathing and took my blood pressure..
the doctor make it as though i disturbed him from his sleep..
after taking their medicine, i vomited and did not feel better at all..
that stupid 24 hours clinic's consultation cost me $72 plus the medicine was $105 !!!

hence, i went back to my usual family doctor..
i must say, his medicine always works for me..
he is also very nice and caring in the sense that he is really concerned..
and guess what, he told me that the combination of medicine will make my heart beat harder and abit faster..
no wonder i did not feel better at all..
my daddy is kind of pissed now.. he said if the 24 hrs doctor was better, he would not mind,
but the doctor is giving such an attitude and their medicines do not work..
oh well, daddy might be complaining... hahas..

The Five Languages of Apology

2009-06-23T15:46:00.002+08:00

Expressing Regret

“Expressing Regret” is the Apology Language that zeroes in on emotional hurt. It is an admission of guilt and shame for causing pain to another person.

For those who listen for “Expressing Regret” apologies, a simple “I’m sorry” is all they look for. There is no need for explanation or “pay back” provided the apology has truly come from the heart.

“Expressing Regret” is a powerful Apology Language because it gets right to the point. It doesn’t make excuses or attempt to deflect blame. Above all, “Expressing Regret” takes ownership of the wrong. For that reason, “Expressing Regret” is understood as a sincere commitment to repair and rebuild the relationship.

The “Expressing Regret” Apology Language speaks most clearly when the person offering the apology reflects sincerity not only verbally, but also through body language. Unflinching eye contact and a gentle, but firm touch are two ways that body language can underscore sincerity.

Accept Responsibility

It is very difficult for some people to admit that they’re wrong. It makes them doubt their self-worth, and no one likes to be portrayed as a failure. However, as adults, we must all admit that we are sinners and that we will make mistakes. We are going to make poor decisions that hurt our mates, and we are going to have to admit that we were wrong. We have to accept responsibility for our own failures.

For many individuals, all they want is to hear the words, “I am wrong.” If the apology neglects accepting responsibility for their actions, many partners will not feel as though the apology was meaningful and sincere. Many partners need to learn how to overcome their ego, the desire to not be viewed as a failure, and simply admit that their actions were wrong. For a mate who speaks this apology language, if an apology does not admit fault, it is not worth hearing. Being sincere in your apology means allowing yourself to be weak, and admitting that you make mistakes. Though this may be hard to do for some people, it makes a world of a difference to your partner who speaks this language.

Make Restitution

In our society, many people believe that wrong acts demand justice. The one who commits the crime should pay for their wrongdoing. A mate who speaks this love language feels the same way towards apologies. They believe that in order to be sincere, the person who is apologizing should justify their actions. The mate who’s been hurt simply wants to hear that their mate still loves them.

There are many effective ways to demonstrate sincerity in an apology. Each mate must learn the other’s love language in order to complete the act of restitution. Though some mates may feel a though all is forgotten with a bouquet of flowers, that may not necessarily work for all mates. Every mate should uncover what their partner’s main love language is (Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts) and use that specific language in order to make restitutions in the most effective way.

For a mate whose primary apology language is making restitutions, no matter how often you say “I’m sorry”, or “I was wrong”, your mate will never find the apology sincere. You must show strong efforts for making amends. A genuine apology will be accompanied by the assurance that you still love your mate
and have a desire to right the wrong-doings committed.

Genuinely Repent

For some individuals, repentance is the convincing factor in an apology. Some mates will doubt the sincerity of an apology if it is not accompanied by their partner’s desire to modify their behavior to avoid
the situation in the future.

It’s important to remember that all true repentance begins in the heart. A mate must feel poorly for hurting their loved one, and rely on God’s help in order to truly change. Admitting you are wrong creates vulnerability. It allows your mate to get a glimpse of your heart. The glimpse of true self is assurance that the apology was sincere.

One important aspect of genuinely repenting is verbalizing your desire to change. Your mate cannot read your mind. Though you may be trying to change inside, if you do not verbalize your desire to change to your mate, most likely they will still be hurt.

Many people have problems with repenting when they do not feel as though their actions were morally wrong. However, in a healthy relationship, we often make changes that have nothing to do with morality and everything to do with building a harmonious marriage.

It is also important to make a dedicated plan for change. Often apologies involving repentance fail because the person never set up steps of action to help ensure success. A person must first set goals for their change. After you create realistic goals, then you can start implementing a plan to change. Taking baby steps towards repentance instead of insisting on changing all at once will increase your chances of successfully changing your ways.

It is important to remember that change is hard. Constructive change does not mean we will immediately be successful. There will be highs and lows on the road to change. You must remember that with God’s help, anyone can change their ways if they are truly and genuinely ready to repent.

Request Forgiveness

In some relationships, a mate wants to hear their partner physically ask for forgiveness. They want assurance that their mate recognizes the need for forgiveness. By asking forgiveness for their actions, a partner is really asking their mate to still love them. Requesting forgiveness assures your mate that you want to see the relationship fully restored. It also proves to your mate that you are sincerely sorry for what you’ve done. It shows that you realize you’ve done something wrong. Requesting forgiveness also shows that you are willing to put the future of the relationship in the hands of the offended mate. You are leaving the final decision up to your partner – to forgive or not forgive.

Requesting forgiveness is not easy. It often leaves one vulnerable to the fear of rejection. Along with the fear of rejection is the fear of failing. Many people have a hard time seeking forgiveness because it means admitting that you have failed. The only way to overcome this fear is to recognize that it is very common amongst mankind. The commonality makes it okay to be a failure. It allows a stubborn mate to apologize to their partner and become a healthy individual.

Ultimately, it’s important to remember that there is a difference between asking for forgiveness and DEMANDING forgiveness. When we demand forgiveness, we tend to forget the nature of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a choice the offended party is supposed to make. Demanding forgiveness takes away the sincerity of asking for it.

Remember not to treat forgiveness lightly. It is something to be cherished and appreciated. The act of forgiveness is hard on both ends – for the person who’s asking and for the person who’s accepting.

taken from: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn_apology.html

fivelovelanguages

2009-06-23T15:36:00.002+08:00

Words of Affirmation

Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.” Simple statements, such as, “You look great in that suit,” or “You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies,” are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.

Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement. Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

Quality Time

Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.

Receiving Gifts

Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.

If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.

The gift of self is an important symbol of love. Sometimes all your mate desires is for someone to be there for them, going through the same trials and experiencing the same things. Your body can become a very powerful physical symbol of love.

These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don’t even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.

Acts of Service

Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Just as Jesus demonstrated when he washed the feet of his disciples, doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate.

Very often, both pairs in a couple will speak to the Acts of Service Language. However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Even though couples are helping each other around the house, couples will still fight because the are unknowingly communicating with each other in two different dialects. For example, a wife may spend her day washing the cars and walking the dog, but if her husband feels that laundry and dishes are a superior necessity, he may feel unloved, despite the fact that his wife did many other chores throughout the day. It is important to learn your mate’s dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love.

It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart.

Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

Physical Touch

Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.

It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.

taken from: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html

H1N1

2009-06-22T14:55:00.002+08:00

there is H1N1 case in RP..
they have evacuated the classes at the level of the identified students..
all go home and stay home for a week.. hmmm.. pretty interesting huh..

2009-06-12T00:20:00.000+08:00

happy birthday, maki !!!

2009-05-27T12:49:00.003+08:00

went to watch night of the musuem 2 with some ushers :)
the movie was pretty interesting.. and funny too..

recently have been pretty tiring as there are many UTs..
oh well, hopefully the UT grades will be pretty good..
aiming for a C at least..
as i did not have any "A"s and maybe i got only 2 "B"s throughout
my whole entire RP life so far..
pretty sad huh.. have been having loads of "C"s and "D"s..

Who Are You to Judge?

2009-05-26T10:35:00.002+08:00

Who Are You to Judge?
Matthew 7:1,2
Do not judge lest you be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.

Perhaps the greatest roadblock to loving confrontation is the well-known "log" that seems lodged in your eyes. Such handicapped vision inevitably distorts our relationships, both with God and with each other. Here are five tips that are found useful in keeping judgment out of confrontation:

1. Check your motivation. Are you bringing this up to help or to hurt? Prayer is the best way to check our motives. When we take the situation to God and He shines His light on us and the problem, then we usually see our motivation for what it is.

2. Check your attitude. Loving confrontation says, "I care about you." Don't hop on your bulldozer and bury your mate.

3. Check the circumstance. Pick a suitable time, location and setting. Don't confront your mate the moment he or she walks in the door after a hard day's work, at mealtime or in front of others.

4. Check to see what other pressures may be present. Be sensitive to where others are coming from. What's the context of their lives right now?

5. Be ready to take it as well as dish it out. Sometimes confronting someone can boomerang-he or she may have some stuff saved up for you that will spill out when you bring up an issue. If you expect others to listen, to understand, to hear you out and to accept your point of view, be ready to do the same yourself.

UT

2009-05-22T17:41:00.004+08:00

UT was cancelled today! Shiok! (UT - test)

anyway, have been going home for dinner recently..
became a good girl ok..
my uncle just move house, near to mine..
his house is not bad.. but it is a little colourful from on point then not very colourful from another point. interesting huh? have been having my driving lessons nowadays.. practical test is coming.. super excited about it.. oh well.. class has been ok.. got a first 'A' from one of my modules for my daily grade..
oh ya! guess what? while i was having my UT yesterday, my computer crashed on me! i has to re-start it.. wasted a few mins of my time. did not really manage to complete the paper.. oh well, just hope for morderation now. hahas..

370Z !

2009-05-17T20:31:00.002+08:00

this is the new 370Z !
cool & nice huh ?
:) :) :)

happy anniversary!

2009-05-16T18:30:00.003+08:00

happy 5 years 9 months anniversary, my dear..

miss u

2009-05-11T21:13:00.003+08:00

have not been blogging for quite a long while. many things have been happening.

school re-opened, things have been unstable.

during this period of time, i have been busy with the demise of my grandfather.
it been many long days for everyone. but at least we all visited him before anything happened.

(family is irreplaceable. thank you for bringing me up with your love. i'm greatly blessed. i will never forget the times together, in fact, i miss it & i love you.)

first few days of school was pretty boring, barely knew anyone from any class.
just today i just realise that on the fourth day, i have a few friends that are in the same class as me. its nice.

marcus hubby has just went into NS not long ago too. about 2 weeks back already. everything was pretty interesting with the less hair and everything. :)

we celebrated my daddy birthday recently a day before mother's day. we bought the same present for my daddy & mummy. it was nice and a little expensive. maybe because my brother and sister has not pay me back yet. hahas. here are some photos.

i have spent quite a lot today..
i have spend $10 to buy clothes from my friend..
and i just spend $49 on a blogshop.. :)

its so cute! at bugis :)

2009-04-21T12:38:00.001+08:00

SPCA

2009-04-15T22:45:00.003+08:00

Mad Jacks

2009-04-15T22:43:00.002+08:00

Family Time

2009-04-15T22:36:00.001+08:00

bugis steamboat

2009-03-31T21:01:00.003+08:00

we went to bugis for steamboat dinner..
it was $18.80 instead of $19.80..
all of us ate until pretty full..
because we ate for about 2 hours..
wa hahahas..
however, the 3 guys have stomach ache the next day..
but i didnt.. perhaps they took too much seaweed.. :p

interesting cars with interesting things :)

2009-03-31T20:56:00.002+08:00

i saw this car in church and everyone was looking at it.. :)

interesting cab with wifi..
installed by the driver himself..
he even has a laptop and printer in the car that you can use..
cool right?
he even has pretty good speakers at the back..
and guess what? he only spent about s$1,000 on everything..

the bowling competition :)

2009-03-31T20:50:00.004+08:00

just a few pictures :)
kind of forgot about it.. sorry guys, here you go..

funny slogans‏

2009-03-31T14:18:00.001+08:00

Advertisement In A Long Island Shop: Guitar, for sale....... Cheap....... .....no strings attached..

Ad In Hospital Waiting Room: Smoking Helps You Lose Weight ... One Lung At A Time!

On a bulletin board: Success Is Relative. The more The Success, The more The Relatives. (they will look for you..)

My Grandfather Is Eighty And Still Doesn't Need Glasses... He Drinks Straight Out Of The Bottle.

Sign In A Bar: 'Those Of You Who Are Drinking To Forget, Please do Pay In Advance.'

Sign In Driving School: If Your Wife Wants To Learn To Drive, Don't Stand In Her Way.

Behind Every Great Man, There Is A Surprised Woman.

The Reason Men Lie Is Because Women Ask too Many Questions.

Getting Caught Is The Mother Of Invention.

Laugh And The World Laughs With You, Snore And You sleep Alone.

The Surest Sign That Intelligent Life Exists Elsewhere In The Universe Is The Fact That It Has Never Tried To Contact Us.

Sign At A Barber's Saloon In Detroit : We Need Your Heads To Run Our Business.

A Traffic Slogan: Don't Let Your Kids Drive If They are Not Old Enough Or Else They Will Never Be.

Sign In A Restaurant: All Drinking Water In This Establishment Has Been Personally Passed By The Manager.

Sign On A Famous Beauty Parlor Window: Don't Whistle At The Girls Going Out From Here. She May Be Your Grandmother !

updates :)

2009-03-06T14:04:00.003+08:00

Haagen Daz Ice Cream on Valentine's Day..

It was so ShIoK ! :) :) :)

tea break cooked by chef marcus..
hahas.. quite interesting and nice right?
it tasted not bad too! hahas..

Look at the big cow and the big 'fu'..
The less crowded part of Chinatown.. Hahas..

CNY 2009
just some random shots..
just realised that i did not take much photos for this cny..
aw man..

ORGANIC Soft Drinks! 'Grass' actually tastes pretty good at a restaurant! Haha!
It was Ah Po Mama's Birthday that day :)
went to this place with uncle tony, aunty alice, ah po mama, audrey, marcus & me!

Valentine's Day!
Immature VS Matured?
Hmmmm. That's not right.
Anyway, it was really sweet for the morning surprise that dear gave me..
the roses are BEAUTIFUL..
it has been quite a while though, ever since i received flowers
Thanks Dear :)

@ the movies, Lido.
we watched Valkarie, it was a pretty interesting show.. hahas..
i find this photo very cute.. quite interesting to be frank..
oh ya, maki did not want to take a photo.. hahas..

new toilet :)

2009-03-03T22:25:00.003+08:00

now, raffles city has very beautiful toilet at basement..
super nice, clean and cool.. ( i like )
it even has some auto toilet things..
so interesting to explore..
i know this is super lame, but just for interest.. :)

this year's valentines

2009-03-03T22:16:00.003+08:00

just found these photos, there are more, but not with me..

super sweet right?

Be careful what you plant‏

2009-02-25T21:57:00.000+08:00

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust

* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends

* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness

* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment

* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective

* If you plant hard work, you will reap success

* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation

* If you plant faith in GOD, you will reap a harvest

So, be careful what you plant now;
it will determine what you will reap later.

you're complete

2009-02-25T21:53:00.000+08:00

If you ever look at yourself & feel that you don't measure up, read this & your outlook will change before you finish reading it! This is good to keep, not just to read from time to time, but to also keep stored in your heart! Enjoy, & remember who you are!!!

When I created the heavens and the earth, I spoke them into being.
When I created man, I formed him and breathed life into his nostrils.
But you, I fashioned after I breathed the breath of life into man because your nostrils are too delicate.
I allowed a deep sleep to come over him so I could patiently and perfectly fashion you.
Man was put to sleep so that he could not interfere with the creativity.
From one bone, I fashioned you.
I chose the bone that protects man's life.
I chose the rib, which protects his heart and lungs and supports him, as you are meant to do.
Around this one bone, I shaped you ...... I molded you.
I created you perfectly and beautifully.
Your characteristics are as the rib, strong yet delicate and fragile.
You provide protection for the most delicate organ in man, his heart.
His heart is the centre of his being; his lungs hold the breath of life.
The rib cage will allow itself to be broken before it will allow damage to the heart.
You are my perfect angel....You are my beautiful little girl.
You have grown to be a splendid woman of excellence, and my eyes fill when I see the virtues in your heart.
Your eyes......don't change them.
Your lips -- how lovely when they part in prayer.
Your nose, so perfect in form.
Your hands so gentle to touch.
I've caressed your face in your deepest sleep.
I've held your heart close to mine.
Of all that lives and breathes, you are most like me.
Adam walked with me in the cool of the day, yet he was lonely.
He could not see me or touch me. He could only feel me.
So everything I wanted Adam to share and experience with me, I fashioned in you; my holiness, my strength, my purity, my love, my protection and support.
You are special because you are an extension of Me.
Man represents my image, woman my emotions.
Together, you represent the totality of God.
You are loved, respected and fragile.

"Keep shining, Keep running,
Keep hoping, Keep praying.
Keep being exactly what you are already in God's eyes, you are COMPLETE!!!"

new record

2009-02-12T22:10:00.001+08:00

yay! another new record, but i used hubby's account.. :(

2009-02-12T17:01:00.001+08:00

hahas, this is my highest score so far for my bro to see.. :p

about holidays

2009-02-11T20:24:00.003+08:00

the holidays have been pretty good...

i am kind of up to 2 jobs now..

one is something like data entry and the other is my usual retail job..

the income now for the holidays are really not very good..

oh well, it just means less shopping & lesser shopping..

anyway, i enjoyed the shopping on sunday alot..

i served early in the morning, ended everything in the afternoon..

marcus was nice to meet me at queensway mrt..

we took a bus down to ikea! it has been a super long time since i last went there..

we ate my fav hotdog bun plus curry puff and soft drink..

hubby wanted to bring me to a place near there for quite some time,

but apprently, it was closed.. it got him pretty sad..

but i am still happy that he has that thought..

after that, we went to hong kong cafe to eat our dinner..

i didn't know he liked the cheese bake rice there..

or rather, it was pretty new to me..

but it is always nice to know something new after being together for 5 years..

after dinner, hubby got this craving for 'tang yuan'..

but the 'tang yuan' at hong kong cafe was $4.90 for 4 tang yuan only..

he said it was too expensive, hence, we went to buy and went home to cook..

however, there were some new ingredients and it did not turn out so well..

but surely & definitely, it would be better the next round :)

VALENTINE'S is coming !!!

(prepare the love & presents)

CNY09

2009-01-30T12:10:00.003+08:00

lunar new year 2009 !

marie bday

2009-01-19T14:39:00.002+08:00

my hunky sweetheart :)

it was marie's birthday :)

2009-01-15T19:55:00.002+08:00

i have started my driving a few times back..

i feel that this round today was not very well..

perhaps i did not really have the heart or mind to concentrate..

could not really concentrate to know how much to press on the clutch..

just kind of did my CNY shopping..

it was not too bad but i was not very happy with all of the clothes i bought..

however, it was still ok..

i met up with my ex classmates to eat today..

both jessica & debby.. they are one of my sweethearts..

kind of miss the times with them..

we had a great time eating together..

have not been eating with them for quite some time already..

i went to a talk with kai bing today..

it was boring, but luckily,

it did not take long.. have not done the RJ though..

hahas..

Good Advice :)

2009-01-08T09:04:00.001+08:00

Just some very good advice :)

An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.'

Pray
Go to bed on time.
Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.
Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.
Delegate tasks to capable others.
Simplify and unclutter your life.
Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)
Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.
Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.
Take one day at a time.
Separate worries from concerns . If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety . If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.
Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.
Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.
K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
Do something for the Kid in You everyday.
Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.
Get enough rest.
Eat right.
Get organized so everything has its place.
Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.
Write down thoughts and inspirations.
Every day, find time to be alone.
Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray.
Make friends with Godly people.
Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.
Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good 'Thank you Jesus .'
Laugh.
Laugh some more!
Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.
Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).
Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).
Sit on your ego.
Talk less; listen more.
Slow down.
Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.
Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. GOD is in control and HE has a way of turning things around for you.

'If God is for us, who can be against us?' (Romans 8:31)

thanksgiving

2009-01-06T10:11:00.006+08:00

Thanksgiving last Friday!

it was Great Fun and Bonding!

( pictures will speak louder :] )

puppy so cute !

2009-01-05T14:18:00.002+08:00

might be getting this puppy...

cute ma ? i am so excited.. hahas !

cute cute

2008-12-14T21:54:00.004+08:00

yay! school holidays are here!
there is so many things to do..
1st, we have to prepare for christmas..
2nd, we have to prepare for new year..
3rd, we have to prepare for chi new year..
4th, we have to prepare for valentine's day..
and of course, not forgetting to work and earn money for all these special moments..

during this school holidays,
i guess it is just work and play as usual..
not sure if i am going anywhere..
kai bing says she might want to go hong kong..
but currently only got both of us..
should get some guys to go together for safety reasons..
hahas.. it is not making use ok, it is just in case kind of thing..

christmas is coming!
to be frank, i am a little more excited about it..
there are a few upcoming events for me,
caroling, moving, planning, booking..
pretty busy and nice actually.. hahas..

john has gone into NS..
wonder how has things been for him..
hope it has been good.. oh well..

did not really realize this thing until today..
there is this things called Pet Society in Facebook..
it is pretty cute i think..
i always play it in class..
can go to different area to shop for things to..
just like a mini world that you can create for yourself
or your pet kind of thing.. hahas.. the highest level is 34..
i am still far from it man.. hahas..
but i really just play for the fun of it..
i think it is super cute.. :)

2008-12-09T18:14:00.002+08:00

finally, i have got a newphone!

it is a LG Viewty..

yappie! and it is pink!

hahas.. very pretty..

like it alot..

it is a nice phone..

but i have yet to get used to it..

taking a long time to find contacts and msg now..

i have also got myself a new black handbag..

i was pretty tempted to buy all the colors..

there was white, brown, purple and black..

i dont really want the purple one though.. hahas..

there is an ulcer at the left side, bottom lip..

it is so so so painful..

i bit it about 4 times yesterday..

and it BleD.. while i was eating dinner..

kinda Eeww right? but i was not super bad la..

ad i bit it once while i was eating with kai bing today..

thank God, it did not bled once again..

but it has grown bigger and a new one is growing on the right side..

Aahhhhh.... :(

2008-12-05T11:35:00.001+08:00

my dear sister is so cute here..

just here to say

BiG BiG tHaNkS!

weird people... ???

2008-12-05T08:30:00.003+08:00

it has been pretty weird recently,

(really kind of wonder why, hahas)

i have not been blogging on a daily basis..

at 04 Dec 08 03:11, yesterday, there was these few weird tags..

from this guy called jason and this girl called jane..

as far as i feel, this girl call jane does not really exist..

i say this because, they are using the same exact IP address,

and their tag is just one min difference..

the guy's IP address, 202.21.158.17..

anyone interested can go see all the tags from the tagboard..

i did not delete or edit any.. hahas..

if this is familiar to anyone and

you think you might know who the person in, please tell me ya?

(this guy should be from RP..according to IP)

tHaNkS eVeRyOne!

:) :) :)

LG viewty!

2008-12-04T14:40:00.002+08:00

Pros

Responsive Touch Screen - The first that pops up when you switch on the phone is a touch screen calibrating system, which allows the phone to customize its responses to your fingers. And the touch screen response is simply amazing! So far, I’ve not mistyped an SMS or misfired while playing Space Commando (a futuristic phone version of Counter Strike).
Big Bright Screen - Even under the amazingly hot sun of Singapore, the screen is still very clearly visible.
Full-Featured Camera - Well, it’s not as a good as a digital camera, but it still performs better than most camera phones in the market. With the flash, it can even take decent night shots. Along with basic camera features, LG has also added different modes, image stabilization and special effects! It’s like the Mac photobooth - only portable!
Vibrate Touch Response - One of the common complaints about touchscreen gadgets is the lack of response when you press on something. LG has changed all that. Now the phone vibrates whenever you click on something. Good job!

Cons

Strange Scrolling Method - With any computer program, you would always scroll down by moving the scrollbar downwards or rolling the scrollwheel downwards. Even my Cowon D2 MP3 player does the same. But LG had to be special and have the user scroll upwards to move the page down, and scroll downwards to move the page up. It’s really confusing my senses even after using it for 2 weeks.
Fingerprint Magnet - This is quite standard for most touchscreen gadgets, right? Someone please invent a matte touchscreen!
No Full Keyboard - Well, it’s a touchscreen phone, why have a phone keyboard when you can add a full-sized QWERTY keyboard?! Even my tiny Cowon D2 has a full keyboard for the dictionary feature! So size is not a constraint at all!

tag and give me your comments ya?

thanks thanks :)

:)

2008-12-02T23:41:00.000+08:00

1. Realize you have a problem. To not do this is delusion.

2. What you complain about the most is your problem. It is yours to solve. No one else can do it for you. Others can help, but the final decision rests with you.

3. Stop talking your problem. Talk the solution. Talking about your problems all the time is to pile misery upon misery.

4. Make a list of those problems causing the most trouble.

5. Prioritize the list, A, B, C and so forth. DO NOT list blue Mondays, rainy days and heavy traffic. Those are not problems. That is called living life. You couldn’t change them anyway.

6. Deal with A and leave the remainder of the list alone. When A is solved B becomes A and so forth. Move through the list with determination. Remember that living life will always be mixed with difficulty. Change what you can change. Others will take care of what you cannot change. That is their assignment, not yours.

7. Make a list of your blessings. Think this one through. What you take for granite is many times a blessing. Any day above ground is a GREAT day. Be thankful for where you are. Your problems are only permanent if you choose to make them so.

Ask your self this question. Has what you have been complaining about all the time changed? If not, you are burning excess energy and going nowhere. It is like spinning your tires on ice. You go nowhere until you get some traction. Some problems are not yours to solve. Some problems you will not solve alone. You will need help. Do not be afraid to ask for it. Stop trying to change what you cannot change.

bland

2008-11-30T21:44:00.000+08:00

things just seems bland recently..

no difference

2008-11-28T21:39:00.002+08:00

some things just need not to be said at times...

it makes no difference saying it or not...

back from holiday

2008-11-28T12:21:00.003+08:00

i am back from my holiday !

genting was pretty fun for my whole family..

though we spent most of the time eating, sleeping..

this picture is really cute..

the doggie sooo cute!

i like............

i want............

sweet

2008-11-26T21:09:00.002+08:00

This is really sweet...

When a boy is quiet ... millions of things are running in his mind.

When a boy is not arguing ... he is thinking deeply.

When a boy looks at u with eyes full of questions ... he is wondering how long you will be around.

When a boy answers ' I'm fine ' after a few seconds .... he is not at all fine.

When a boy stares at you ... he is wondering why you are lying.

When a boy let you lays on his chest .... he is wishing for you to be his forever.

When a boy wants to see you everyday... he wants to be yours 4eva.

When a boy says ' I love you ' ... he means it.

When a boy says ' I miss you ' ... no one in this world can miss you more
than that.

Life only comes around once make sure u spend it with the right person....

Find a Guy .. who calls you beautiful instead of hot...

Who calls you back when you hang up on him...

Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep...

Wait for the guy who ...kisses your forehead...

Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats...

Who holds your hand in front of his friends...

Who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you...

Who turns to his friends and says, ' That's her!! '

If you open this you have to
repost it, guy or girl, or you will have bad luck for the rest of your life !!!!!

Nonsense!

2008-11-20T15:45:00.003+08:00

things have been pretty sweet recently..
just want to say ' Thank You ' to my dearest hubby..
it has been hard on you, i guess..
and i am going to remember what you said last night..
at 1 am.. hahas! it was a

something happened so huge on wednesday..
it has been quite some time since i was so mad at somebody..
i have not been so mad for a few months or maybe years..
i do feel bad after that, but i really couldn't tolerate it anymore..

Guess what happened today.. I left my phone in school..
while the faci was preparing to end the class, I was already packing my bag.
I needed to leave fast so that I could be earlier to the conference.
I then left the class hurriedly, went to grab a waffle, and went to the bus stop.
when I went to the bus stop, I waited for the bus patiently..
when the bus came, I was pretty happy cause I thought I wouldn’t be late..
then I wanted to inform hubby that I am leaving school already..
so I searched for my phone, and I could not find it!
I got a huge shock and was very worried..
immediately I wanted to call Kai Bing to help me hold on to my phone first..
but, the thing was, I couldn’t remember her number..
then I started to panicked.. I went to take a bus back from the stop that I stopped at..
I was so worried that someone will take my phone home..
it is not that I do not want my friends to hold on to my phone, but I am going on a holiday tomorrow..
so I would really need it just in case anything happens..
and also to contact my hubby and daddy, of course..
I was so worried that no one would be in class waiting for me..
Thank God, I saw Kai Bing, Bing Bing & Xiao Xiao when I was walking in..
And Praise the Lord that she was holding on to my phone!
I was Superly Duperl glad to see them!
Thanks Girls! Muacks!

Guess what happened yesterday, the bus that I was taking home,
Broke Down!
just a few more stops to my house, and it broke down!
lucky there were still buses that I could go home to..

Asia Conference, Be excited ! :)

2008-11-17T08:37:00.001+08:00

Greetings in the wonderful name of Jesus!

Our inaugural Asia Conference is only a few days away and will be taking place next week from 19 - 23 November 2008 at Singapore Expo Hall 8.
Thousands of Delegates from 72 countries will be joining us for these 5 days!
We have an extraordinary lineup of world-renowned speakers and top worship leaders from around the world that will be with us and we are believing God for life-changing encounters to take place that will lead us into greater spiritual breakthroughs.

There will also be a featuring special performances by world-renowned singers, Carola Haggkvis, Du Du Fisher, Don Moen & Sidney Mohede! But more than that, the delegates are coming to see everyone!

As admission to this conference is free and open to everyone, don't miss this opportunity to invite those from the marketplace to attend - bosses, colleagues and friends! Do come early as seating arrangement is on a first-come first-serve basis.

tired !

2008-11-14T14:18:00.003+08:00

i feel so tired recently..

both emotionally and physically..

always putting a stronger front in front of people to see..

so many people expects things to be done without any input..

and expecting a huge output of stuffs..

it is so irritating when you have to stuck in the middle..

and especially in two parties..

being the middle man, repeating yourself again and again..

i just want to rest.. be on a holiday or something..

or even going to the beach at night or something..

just somewhere relaxing will do..

and i am really glad i am going on a mini holiday next fri, sat & sun..

with my family and relatives.. :)

i would like to take this chance for the help given by hubby..

i guess i troubled him quite some bit today..

[ guess he got pretty irritated as well.. sorry... ]

despite his work, he was still able to attend to me..

his workplace is pretty strict, but he was still able to spare some time..

it is pretty sweet and i appreciate it..

but i must say, that he did help me quite alot..

i also want to thank his mom for helping me in certain arrangement..

hahas !

2008-11-11T08:52:00.003+08:00

it is my granddad's birthday!
i brought my family and marcus to a restaurant that i used to eat in every weekend when i was younger..
it was pretty sweet, i would say..
daddy so bad la, say this is the first time i treat him eat a meal..
somemore is not actually for him, is for granddad..
hahas! it was pretty nice and we got a mini cake...

there is this prata shop in Jalan Kayu that is really pretty nice..
i like their plain prata.. super nice!
but i dont really like their curry..
taste like curry soup..
ya, u heard it right..
Curry Soup.. hahas.. :) try it!

i bought my cartoon pajamas!
hello kitty and melody.. very nice..
but it seems pretty big eh..
super duper long.. cover till over my knee..
then the length of the sleeve is over a elbow.. hahas..
but i really like the cartoon alot..
kai bing, bing bing and xiao xiao accompany me (tengteng) to buy it..
Thanks Girls! Muacks! :)

cute photo!

2008-11-06T18:45:00.002+08:00

cute photo!

hahas.. zhang wei passed me this link..

super nice.. and fun too.. hahas :)

i was just wondering:

should we chase after the money?

or should we let money chase for us?

the heart

2008-11-06T13:33:00.002+08:00

The heart works on 4 levels:

thinking
visions & dreams
faith
speaking

unwell :(

2008-11-06T08:58:00.002+08:00

:(
it seems like i am down with a flu,
not only that, i am having a spinning headache,
that makes me feels giddy & a bit like vomitting..
it started from yesterday,
lasted till this morning..
hope i'll get better soon,
drinking 100plus for some help.. hahas..

oh well, just want to say Thanks to JQ bao bei... :)
u've been a very nice sweetheart to me.. loves..

Which Is Your Leading Cause of Stress?

1. Finances

Most studies agree that finances are a leading cause of stress. In an online poll conducted in 2005 by LifeCare, Inc., 23 percent of respondents named finances as the leading cause of stress in their lives. Financial stress has led the list in many modern polls.

Some who name finances as the leading cause of stress cite major purchases they have to make, such as a home or car. Others are stressed by a loss of income, or mounting credit card debt. For some, financial stress will eventuate in bankruptcy. While college students stress over paying for an education, Baby Boomers and older senior citizens find that retirement income can be a major cause of stress.

2. Work

Closely tied to finances as a cause of stress is work. Our jobs or careers seem to cause constant stress. In the LifeCare poll, 21 percent of those responding listed this as the leading cause of stress in life.

How is the workplace a cause of stress? We worry about getting and keeping adequate employment. We worry about new types of work or new responsibilities. We struggle to climb a career ladder, overwhelmed by the demands. Work conditions may change, or we may have interpersonal trouble at work. Students, especially teenagers and college age students, cite school work as a cause of stress. Sometimes, work stress is brought on by others. Sometimes, we bring it on ourselves.

3. Family

Family, wonderful though each member may be, is also a leading cause of stress. Arguments erupt with a spouse or other family member. Parents divorce. Children marry. The ebb and flow of family life is filled with stress. A child moves out – an aging parent moves in.

Family health is also a leading cause of stress. A sick family member, a serious injury, pregnancy, miscarriage, or abortion all cause stress. Family changes of other kinds bring stress, too. Adoption, relocation, and job changes for just one family member can cause stress for all.

4. Personal Concerns

Personal concerns that are only indirectly created by others are another top cause of stress. Lack of control tops the list of personal concerns. Every human has a deep-seated desire for control over his or her own life. When control is weak or missing in a given area, we experience stress. To many people, a lack of control over their own time is a leading cause of stress. We want to determine when we do tasks around the home, or at work. Holding a job, participating in the children’s carpool to school, driving family to soccer practices, shopping, and scout meetings while trying to keep the household running can create major stress. You would like to control your time, rather than let others’ demands control it, but that is not always possible.

We may be involved in legal proceedings that cause stress. We may be wrestling with a bad habit. We may be going through changes. Personal change of any kind can be a cause of stress.

5. Personal Health and Safety

Most people find that personal health is a leading cause of stress. For some, the stress is linked to obesity, and a desire to lose weight. For others, the stress is a personal bas habit that affects health and must be changed. For example, smoking, abuse of alcohol or other drugs. Illness or injury, whether less or more serious, can be a leading cause of stress for many people. Incontinence can be an ongoing concern. Personal health is more or less stressful according to the degree of seriousness and our personal outlook on health.

Personal safety is also a leading cause of stress. Women, more than men, tend to stress about their own and others’ safety. Adults tend to stress more than young people, who may act invincible. Crime is a factor, as is

6. Personal Relationships

Whether it is a friendship, dating, separation, marriage, divorce, or re-marriage, a relationship can be a leading cause of stress for many. We all want love, and that is potentially available in relationships, but getting from A to B can be very stressful. Some resort to online relationships that are easier to handle. Others withdraw and become recluses. Either way, the demands on time, finances, and emotions can cause ongoing stress.

7. Death

Probably the most wrenching cause of stress is the death of a loved one or close friend. Even the death of a pet can be stressful. Children are always a source of stress for parents, but when a child dies, the stress is overwhelming. The same is true when a lifetime spouse passes on.

Win or Lose

Causes of stress change as we age. The stressed child who threw tantrums becomes a young student, stressed by the school bully. The young student becomes a teenager, stressed by acne, hormones, and dating. The teenager becomes a young adult trying to handle the stresses of leaving home, adjusting to college life, and managing finances. Life progresses to first jobs, marriage, children, and so on. Even if you move to a secluded cabin in the woods, stress will follow you.

Managing our Stress
Please realise this is not the whole answer, not even half the answer but just a few guidelines that might help:

1. Much stress is caused by our perception of a situation and our role in that situation. We often feel that we should be in control and when faced with circumstance beyond our control stress begins. We need to recognise that we cannot control everything in life but that God is in control. We should not forget that we are the sheep of his pasture, and that He is the good shepherd. Letting Jesus contol our lives does not mean that we can abdicate our responsibilities. There is a balance to be struck between personal responsibility and allowing God to be in control. The easy way to discover the difference in any situation, especially a stressful one, is to talk to Him about it. He is always there and always available. Often when I go to God with a stressful situation and my preconceived answer I find that I have a change of heart, and come away with a different perspective on the problem. In fact, I find sometimes it's not even my problem.

2. Another tip to manage the stress we experience is to plan "quality time", that is to plan time in our diary for one or more of the following:

Plan quality time with those you love. Spending a few hours with someone you love, a friend or spouse. Quality time is when the phone is turned off and you can talk and listen to each other, without interuption. Walk together and talk together, share a meal. Focus only on the other person,their feelings and their needs as they do the same. Make this time an oasis in your busy life.

Plan quality time to exercise. Arranging to play a sport with someone like tennis or jogging. Physical exercise is a good way to burn off the frustrations we experience from pressure situations. As we get older this time might not be as energetic as a full game of soccer, but if we can go for a walk daily or have fitness schedule we will appreciate the difference it will make.

Plan quality time for a hobby. This doesn't mean that you have to take up knitting but that is maybe just what you need. Something that is completely different to your daily routine. Go to night school to learn the hobby, maybe photography or medival history or computors. Don't limit yourself, why not learn to fly or sail or simply go fishing. A thing that I have never found particularly simple.

Plan quality times of silence. In the hustle and bustle of everyday life we need to plan for and cherish times of silence. Silence for me is a walk along the beach and watching the waves break upon the shore, or walking in the forest, just listening to the birds. Strangely enough the other main time of quality silence for me is laying on our lounge floor in the presence of God, maybe listening to the latest worship tape or in complete silence listening for Him. We are so good in our quite times at being active, reading our bibles and praying, both of which are an excellant beginning to the time of silence. But how often are we still before God. The Psalmist says (46:10 niv) "Be still and know that I am God" another version says "Stand silent" written over 2500 years ago it still makes perfect sense. Why not stop for a moment right now and just feel the peace of God in his creation, just in a simple waterfall.

3. Allow the love of God to disperse any anxiety driven pressure that cause stress warning responses. We can experience his love through the body of Christ, his church and through the word of God revealed by the Holy Spirit. The following few verses from Isaiah are a great comfort to my wife, why not allow the Holy Spirit to reveal the word of God to you and shed abroad the love of God in your heart. That perfect love that drives out fear.

Isaiah 43:1-3 But now, this is what the LORD says-- he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Saviour..."

?? :)

2008-11-04T13:02:00.006+08:00

hubby started working for quit some time already..

i seems like he is pretty tired everyday..

however, after work, he does make an effort to meet up..

it does really seems like we are meeting often,

but somehow it does not seems like we spending alot of time..

weekdays all at work and school..

weekend at work for me, rest for hubby,

service and rest..

only left with everyday at night till about 10pm,

and sunday for dinner time..

nothing much, but special enough..

hubby, thank you for making the effort..

despite all your work and tireness..

things just doesn't seem so right...

but i cant figure anything out that is wrong..

oh well... sometimes,

when you are in something, it does not mean that you're part of it..

i had my class BBQ.. took loads of photos..

i think i really enjoyed myself..

have not had such a great time for some time..

we did the BBQ together, roller blade, cycle..

eat, drink, laugh, made everyone feel part of it..

can say pretty bonded that i thought our class is..

it's the fun, thought & friends that counts :)

special enough and we hadhad lots of fun...

i'm not going to put all the photos here..
but i'm just going to put some of them..

Why men are just happier people ???

2008-10-31T09:31:00.000+08:00

Why men are just happier people

NICKNAMES
If Laura, Kate and Sarah go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura,
Kate and Sarah .
If Mike, Dave and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other
as Fat Boy, Godzilla and Four-eyes.

EATING OUT
When the bill arrives, Mike, Dave and John will each throw in $20, even though it's only for $32.50.
None of them will have anything smaller and none will actually admit they want change back.
When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.

MONEY
A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.
A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need but it's on sale.

BATHROOMS
A man has six items in his bathroom: toothbrush and toothpaste, shaving
cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel.
The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 337.
A man would not be able to identify more than 20 of these items.

ARGUMENTS
A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

FUTURE
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

SUCCESS
A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

MARRIAGE
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, but she does.

DRESSING UP
A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the bins,
answer the phone, read a book, and get the post.
A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.

NATURAL
Men wake up ass good-looking as they went to bed.
Women somehow deteriorate during the night.

OFFSPRING
Ah, children. A woman knows all about her children.
She knows about dentist appointments and romances, best friends, favorite
foods, secret fears and hopes and dreams.
A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
A married man should forget his mistakes.
There's no use in two people remembering the same thing.

2008-10-28T15:36:00.003+08:00

somebody once said that comparision is the thief of joy.
in other words, if you're always comparing yourself to other people,
then you'll never be happy...
that is because everyone is created one of a kind, and for one-of-a-kind purpose.
of course you arent like anyone else; you're U

it is easy to look at someone else and say,
" i wish i were like them, "
but that is a waste of time.
the best way to use your energy and time is to find out who u are,
and then become the best U that you can.
dont waste your life trying to make yourself into a cheap imitation of someone else.
just be yourself. love the true original.

*true & meaningful *
all these may sound simple..
but it is not easy..
there's great work and effort behind it..

HUBBY BDAY PICS !

2008-10-28T15:15:00.004+08:00

here are the pictures as said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ONCE AGAIN BDAY BOY !

marcus hubby

2008-10-21T12:13:00.002+08:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MARCUS HUBBY !

hope you enjoyed your birthday!

we took quite some number of photos, will upload it soon... :)

Lovers :)

2008-10-21T11:53:00.003+08:00

The Lovers of the Heart
In order to form a more perfect kiss,
enable the mighty hug to promote to whom we please but one kiss.

Article 1:
Statement of Love: The Kiss

1. Kiss on the hand
I adore you

2.Kiss on the cheek
I just want to be friends

3.Kiss on the neck
I want you

4.Kiss on the lips
I love you

5.Kiss on the ears
I am just playing

6.Kiss anywhere else
lets not get carried away

7.Look in your eyes
kiss me

8.Playing with your hair
I can't live without you

9.Hand on your waist
I love you to much to let you go

Article 2: The Three Steps

1.Girls:
If any guys gets fresh with you, slap him.

2.Guys
If any girl slaps you, her intentions are still good.

3.Guys & Girls
Close your eyes when kissing, it is rude to stare.

Article 3: The Commandments

1.Thou shall not squeeze too hard.

2.Thou shall not ask for a kiss, but take one.

3.Thou shall kiss at every opportunity.

* Remember *

A peach is a peach A plum is a plum,
A kiss isn't a kiss Without some tongue.
So open up your mouth close your eyes,
and give your tongue some exercise!!!

Here are a few reasons why guys like girls:

1. They will always smell good even if its just shampoo
2. The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder
3. How cute they look when they sleep
4. The ease in which they fit into our arms
5. The way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything is right in the world
6. How cute they are when they eat
7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end it makes it all worth while
8. Because they are always warm even when its minus 30 outside
9. The way they look good no matter what they wear
10. The way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth
11. How cute they are when they argue
12. The way her hand always finds yours
13. The way they smile
14. The way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight
15. The way she says 'lets not fight anymore' even though you know that an hour later....
16. The way they kiss when you do something nice for them
17. The way they kiss you when you say 'I love you'
18. Actually ... just the way they kiss you...
19. The way they fall into your arms when they cry
20. Then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly
21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt
22. Then the way they apologize when it does hurt. (even though>> we don't admit it)!
23. The way they say 'I miss you'
24. The way you miss them
25. The way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore.....

Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them ... it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart. We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling. Only felt.